Posted in June 9, 2025

You didn’t just inherit your last name—you inherited a whole lot more.

Their secrets. Their shame. Their beliefs about vulnerability being a sign of weakness.

And if you haven’t looked at what you’re carrying, chances are—you’re bleeding out in ways you don’t even see. But others do.

That’s what The Inherited Wound Theory is all about. It’s not a clinical diagnosis—it’s a hard truth:

Most leaders live with wounds they didn’t ask for… and pretend it’s all under control.

But you can’t outperform a wound you’ve never acknowledged. And you damn sure can’t lead others when you’re still being led by pain you won’t name.

What You Inherited Wasn’t Yours. But It Is Now.

I learned how to normalize pain before I hit puberty. That was my inheritance.

As a boy, I learned to stay composed while everything around me was in chaos. How to suppress pain. How to keep going when everything inside screamed WTF?!

And it worked—on the outside.

I led troops into combat areas. I got the awards and earned the promotions. I wore the mask of the unshakable leader beneath my uniform and even earned my Master’s while deployed.

But here’s what people didn’t see:

• The emotional chaos in my brain
• The way I mistook people-pleasing for loyalty
• How I internalized mission-first thinking as an avoidance tactic
• The cost I paid in my relationships, career, and inner life

What they praised as strength… was a trauma response. What I thought was my duty…was often self-betrayal in disguise.

I was taught to “drive on.” But I was never taught how to heal myself. I didn’t think I needed to.

Until I hit rock bottom.

You Are Not the Origin of the Pain—But You Are Its Carrier

Some of you reading this have built multi-million-dollar businesses—while your marriage quietly dies.

Some of you command respect in the boardroom—yet hardly know your heirs.

Some of you look perfect on paper—yet still feel like a fraud inside.

That’s not a success problem. It’s a wound problem, and you’ve been avoiding it, believing it will disappear.

When you’ve inherited trauma and never confronted it, everything becomes performative.

Here’s the data that backs it up:

• Trauma is biologically passed down through at least three generations. (Harvard Medical School)
• Chronic emotional suppression leads to inflammation, burnout, and leadership breakdown. (HeartMath Institute)
• Over 60% of high-level executives admit to silently battling emotional exhaustion. (Deloitte 2023)

This is not a personal failure. It’s a human reality. You inherited strategies for survival—not systems for healing.

But here’s the kicker:

What’s not transformed gets transmitted.

So, if you don’t do The Work—it will live on. In your kids. In your team. As your legacy.

The Problem With “Let Them”

Our culture loves convenient healing.

Take Mel Robbins’ viral Let Them Theory.

Let them say what they want. Let them walk away. Let them do whatever they do.

Sounds empowering, right?

But “Let Them” has become a cop-out for real healing and progress.

It feels like wisdom. But often, it’s a clever way of avoidance.

Because when you “let them” without doing the inner work…

• You stay stuck in your patterns.
• You dodge responsibility.
• You numb yourself from the very things that could set you free.

That’s not healing. That’s hiding. And no one ever became whole by outsourcing accountability.

You don’t need another feel-good mantra. You need to get real with yourself.

What the Church Got Wrong (and How We Paid the Price)

Many of us grew up in faith-based communities that told us:

“Forgive and forget. Turn the other cheek. It’s just God’s will.”

But here’s the thing:

They didn’t teach us how to process guilt, anger, resentment, rage, grief, betrayal, or shame. They taught us how to suppress it in the name of righteousness.

That’s not faith. That’s emotional exile dressed in scripture.

The Dangerous Questions You Need to Answer

Let’s stop pretending and get real.

• What pain have you normalized that your children will inherit?
• What are you pretending doesn’t hurt anymore?
• How long are you going to keep outperforming your emotions?
• Can you call yourself a leader if you’re still being led by your pain?
• What would it cost you to finally stop carrying what was never yours?

Radical Reset Isn’t a Self-Help Program. It’s Redemption.

Redemption is not something the world gives you. It’s something you create when you finally look inside and face the truth you’ve been hiding from.

That’s what Radical Reset is.

It’s not mindset coaching. It’s not productivity hacks. It’s not another leadership seminar that ignores the human behind the role.

It’s a system for remembering who you were before the wounding… ...and reclaiming what your trauma made you forget.

Radical Reset walks you through:

• Radical Forgiveness – releasing old stories and emotional debts
• Radical Living – leading from presence and purpose, not performance
• Radical Leadership – embodying safety, clarity, and courage for others
• Radical Contribution – creating impact without abandoning yourself

This isn’t about fixing you.

It’s about remembering your power—and never giving it away again.

Ready to Get Your Sh*t Together?

If you’re tired of surface-level pretense and hungry for real emotional power, here’s your next power move:

📥 Download the Starter Guide – it’s not fluff. It’s the first page of your redemption story. 💬 Or DM me. This is what I do. I coach leaders through Radical Reset, so they stop performing and start leading again—from the inside out, at home and at work.

You don’t need another book with a half-baked solution. You need a breakthrough.

Let’s get that for you.

Radical Reset reclaims the spiritual truth beneath the distortion. It’s not about letting others off the hook—it’s about taking yourself off the altar of self-sacrifice and finally coming home.